Dealing with Stress...naturally
by Melanie Ratcliffe
Stress – defined by the concise oxford dictionary as:
1. pressure or tension exerted on a material object.
"the distribution of stress is uniform across the bar"
synonyms:
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pressure, tension, strain, tightness, tautness;
raretensity
"the
distribution of stress is uniform across the bar"
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2 2. a state of mental or emotional strain or tension resulting from adverse
or demanding circumstances.
"he's obviously under a lot of stress"
synonyms:
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strain, pressure, tension, nervous
tension, worry, anxiety,nervousness;
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I can truly say that I know what it feels like to experience
the effects of ‘stress’. In my 38 (almost 39) years, I have experienced a great
deal of stress. From an early age I have been able to tie myself into knots
without even trying ,over, what I can now look back and call ‘trivial’ things –
however, back then they wern’t trivial at all. Well, not to me. It was relative
to my circumstances and to that specific point in time.
And I guess that as we journey through life we adapt and
change...we deal with things differently according to circumstance and
experience. What was once a major stress can soon become minor and vice versa.
We all react & respond differently. We are all unique.
The American Institute for Stress states
‘Stress is not a useful term for scientists
because it is such a highly subjective phenomenon that it defies definition.’
I am
inclined to agree!
Exams were always a good one to get myself in a state over, peer
pressure, family bereavements, worrying what people think... that was another
big one.
But these now seem so insignificant to the stress I experienced
when my late husband, Dave was diagnosed with bowel cancer at the age of 34 and
the pain of losing him 9 months later. As you can imagine, this took stress to
a whole new level and it wasn’t a good place to be in. This stress bought with it, all sorts of
physical symptoms & pain alongside a barrage of emotions, mental stress and
very sadly, huge amounts of grief.
However, that loss & stress bought about reflection, transformation, change then inspired & reignited something
in me and I started my own business – a whole new experience of stress! Positive
stress that helped me to plunge into a whole new world I hadn’t ventured into
before and a lot of negative stress that came with it – pressure I placed
myself under. But it was a dream I had wanted to pursue and now I had an inner determination AND an opportunity to make it happen.
And then some more stress... the start of new relationship
which also bought with it a new level of stress, good and bad. However
out of it came a deep love and in September last year, I remarried and although this
was at times stressful, organising and planning, It was such a joyful and happy
experience that elicited very different responses to the life events I had
experienced 5 years before.
So why am I sharing this with you? I'm just one person in millions, who has a story like this. Yes, i've just touched on my experiences, but the purpose is to illustrate a few examples of stress really. Stress takes it's toll over time - Ive often wondered why I havent collapsed in a heap, I couldnt see any lasting physical symptoms, but I've experienced exhaustion, brain fog, lack of clarity, sleepless nights, anxiousness, digestive upset. I do get tired easily nowadays and that is one of the effects stress has had on me i'm sure. And the biggest lesson im now learning? I need to make some time for me and learn how to adapt to and manage my stress past and present. It's down to me to make the changes.
Stress – it comes in all shapes and sizes and can be positive
as well as negative.
Managing stress – I still think I don’t deal with stress well – however, when I stand back, I see that I do deal with it, in my own way,
sometimes well others not too well. But at what cost is this to my health? What
I know now is that long term stress is not healthy for me physically,
emotionally, mentally or spiritually and it’s not good to be on the continual
hamster wheel of stress and always having that feeling of ‘fight’ or ‘flight’ –
it’s draining and exhausting and prevents me living my life to it’s potential.
It’s like giving a piggy back to a ‘burglar
of life'. I no longer want to be robbed! So, now i'm in a place of change with a desire to move forward and move forward I shall :)
I find myself in a very fortunate position though.And I'm very grateful for that. Even
though as an individual I have experienced a great deal of stress in many
guises, my passion for natural health and opening my own health store and
complementary therapy centre has brought me to a unique place. I am in the
perfect setting to address my stress levels and tackle them head on. I have a
team of experienced and professional therapists on hand who have supported me
greatly on my journey forward and i’m greatly blessed to have a wonderful
supportive network of family & friends and a loving husband. I also have my own knowledge and experience to draw upon. But ultimately
learning to cope with and manage stress is a strategy 'I' have to put in place
and it’s just my personal opinion...but there isn’t just one pill to fix it or to supress it. It's not always about putting our health in the hands of others and letting them do the work. We have to actively, if we are in the position to, help ourselves. Life is dynamic, it is constantly evolving and changing and I for one do not want to get 'stuck' and miss out on the ride!
According to American Institute of Stress - stress is difficult
to define because it is so different for each of us. They give a great analogy:
‘A
good example is afforded by observing passengers on a steep roller coaster
ride. Some are hunched down in the back seats, eyes shut, jaws clenched and
white knuckled with an iron grip on the retaining bar. They can’t wait for the
ride in the torture chamber to end so they can get back on solid ground and
scamper away. But up front are the wide-eyed thrill seekers, yelling and
relishing each steep plunge who race to get on the very next ride. And in
between you may find a few with an air of nonchalance that borders on boredom.
So, was the roller coaster ride stressful?
The roller coaster analogy is useful in explaining why the same
stressor can differ so much for each of us. What distinguished the passengers
in the back from those up front was the sense of control they had over the
event. While neither group had any more or less control their perceptions and
expectations were quite different. Many times we create our own stress because
of faulty perceptions you can learn to correct. You can teach people to move
from the back of the roller coaster to the front, and, as Eleanor Roosevelt
noted, nobody can make you feel inferior without your consent.
So it’s down to how we CONTROL our stress, how we PERCEIVE it
and how we CHOOSE TO RESPOND to it?
On Saturday 28th February Bare Health (this is the business I was talking of earlier) is hosting the
first of series of holistic health workshops to be held throughout 2015.
Workshops designed to help you live a healthy lifestyle to your fullest
potential, to offer advice, tips, tools and techniques that you can use and
adapt to your everyday life and life events. Each workshop will cover a
specific health related theme and take on board differing approaches to address
the aspects of mind, body & soul. Bare Health - Helping you to find your
healthy balance.
For more details of our forthcoming events click ‘here’
Our first workshop is on the topic of ‘Stress’
We ALL experience stress at some stage in our lives, different
causes, different degrees, different effects. STRESS is NOT a sign of weakness,
it should not be a taboo subject and we shouldn’t be afraid to say I CANT COPE.
It’s how we choose to perceive it, how we respond to it and how we manage it
that matters. How we make sure that it doesn’t take its’ toll on our health and
prevent us from the enjoyment of this life we are given.
The two ladies below have had an incredible impact on my journey forward in terms of support and helping me to find positive and realistic ways to look at Stress and how I can learn to manage it effectively - they have both, in their own unique ways provided me with a different approach to dealing with stress. They have a great deal to offer to all.
I don't mind admitting I'm still learning and I still have walls to climb - I guess I always will be, that's just life. But i'm open to change and so I'll be at the workshop on the 28th and I just know i'll leave it feeling invigorated, inspired and empowered. Armed with new tools & remedies to 'Love my Stress!'
Saturday 28th February 2015 ‘Love Your Stress’ –
holistic approaches to dealing with stress.
Tools to Manage the Mind 10.00 – 11.00am
The first workshop, delivered
by Personal Development Coach, Lisa Barlow, will provide opportunity to explore
tools and techniques to manage the mind.
“During this one hour
session we will look at the causes of stress, how it manifests in our lives and
how we can start to change our relationship with it from one of fear to one of
empowerment. You will learn how mindful breathing exercises can help to centre
the mind and balance the body and understand the power of self talk, how
improving this can alter how we view our lives and ultimately how we feel".
Remedies to Restore Emotional
Balance 11.30am – 12.30pm
Enjoy an absorbing hour’s
workshop with Jane Bowdenleigh on how to ease life’s stresses using Bach Flower
remedies. The remedies are an established therapy, used by generations since
the 1930s and Rescue Remedy is known world-wide.
Rescue Remedy is the first
remedy most people will consider when experiencing stress or
trauma. A remedy composing of 5 of the Bach Flower essences, Jane
will explore when and how to use ‘Rescue’. It is typically a first remedy of
choice for a range of emotional stress including grief, sleeplessness and panic
attacks. The causes of stress will vary from individual to individual and this
valuable workshop will demonstrate how to access the full range of 36
remedies.
The range of Bach Flower
essences cater for all aspects of emotional stress, bringing calm and
well-being. Jane will provide a fascinating taster of how
individuals can access this self-help therapy for themselves. As
well as going on to identify some of the remedies that will relieve different
types of stress.
Each 1 hour workshop costs £10 or £18 when you book onto both. There will also be exclusive Bare Health product discounts and goody bags for those attending the workshops.
To book your place please call Bare Health on 01260 408413
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