Lisa's thought for the week - Are you an energy creator or an energy stealer?

When you walk into a room full of people what energy do you bring with you?

Does it depend on where you are and who you’re with?

Are people generally pleased to see you or would they like to walk out as you walk in?

When I talk about a person’s ‘energy field’ or ‘vibration’ I am talking about how people make us ‘feel when we are around them. Some people give off ‘good vibes’, some give off ‘bad vibes’. It’s not necessarily (though it can be) what they say or how they behave, it’s something else.  You just sense a vibe; it can be positive or negative. So I invite you to consider the vibes you give off. What we are thinking unconsciously is often given away in our facial expressions and body language. ‘I’m fine’ spoken with a frown and arms folded tightly across the body are incongruent, they don’t match. Something is wrong with the picture. It’s easier to notice the energy vibes of another rather than face the mirror and become aware of our own. I believe we are ‘in charge’ of our vibes with our intentions. 

The next time you are at a gathering or party you don’t want to be at (firstly question why you are there to start with, there will be some pay off), consider the vibes you are giving off. Even if you put a ‘smile’ on your face, the sensitive among the group will sense your negative energy. I guarantee you won’t have a good time and it’s unlikely you’ll be invited back. Mission accomplished on your part, you won’t have to return to a place you didn’t want to go in the first place. My advice..... Go because you really want to or stay at home. If you WANT to enjoy yourself you can do that regardless of who you happen to be with, or where you happen to be. Everyone has a choice. Be fully there or leave, the world is in desperate need of loving presence in all our interactions. If you can’t be that love for whatever reason (and we can all justify our reasons) then choose to stay at home, we are all in need of loving kindness and this must start with ourselves.

Challenge: The next party / gathering / family event you get invited to, ask yourself whether this is something you REALLY want to go to. If not, don’t go but if you do decide to attend for whatever reason, go with love and open yourself to the possibility of having a good time, no matter what happens or who pushes your buttons. Stay open and see if anything changes.

Lisa Barlow is a Personal Development Coach based at Bare Health. If you would like to chat to Lisa or make a booking for a one to one consultation, please call Bare Health on 01260 408413